Culture Clash: America and Thailand

by Robert Dempsey on January 10, 2009

The longer I stay in Thailand, the less things surprise me. Bugs being sold by a street vendor? Meh. The fish still flopping while being thrown onto the grill? PETA sure wouldn’t want to come here. Smog covering the city, especially on the weekend? Get a mask if you don’t want to get hurt. Now don’t take this post the wrong way. I love Thailand, the people, and the food. It is great to experience my wife’s native culture, and I am lucky to be able to do so.

Having said that, here are a few bitties showing how different Thai culture, which is literally on the other side of the world, is from my home country, the U.S..

  • In the U.S., skateboarders and roller bladers have to keep to the streets. In Thailand, you have to watch out for motorcycles coming down the sidewalk.
  • In the U.S., when you go out to eat, what you order is yours. In Thailand, you enjoy family-style dining (without the fixed-price menu).
  • In the U.S., shops in the mall are limited to their store space or a kiosk. In Thailand, you have vendors taking up both sides of the hallway, in addition to all of the stores.
  • In the U.S., if you hit a pedestrian, you get into trouble. In Thailand, when crossing the street, it’s every man for himself.
  • In the U.S., you are required to have a child seat in your car for your little one. In Thailand, you’ll see a kid sandwiched in between his parents, on a motorcycle.
  • In the U.S., food is expensive. In Thailand, food is the least expensive thing there is.
  • In the U.S., we bash our President on a regular basis. In Thailand, if you say anything derogatory about the King, you’re going to jail. I believe the Prime Minister is fair game though.

When you’ve visited other cultures, what were some of the things that suprised you?

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  • Pongsri Dempsey
    Hi Rachel,

    When I was in the US I expected to learn the different culture from the American family here. I was very lucky that I had a perfect family and they were both open to talk at all time. You do not have to change anything you do but just explain to her why Americans are doing things the way they are and ask her how a Thai person would react. I love the fact that America is more open. The different with Thai people is they are shy and do the opposite. It is a little confusing. We have to be polite. In school we learn to follow the teacher. What I learned in America is I have to think for myself and every time my teacher would say great job!!! I love it. I can think or do anything even say anything. I think the new generation is more westernized now but we know that we are Thai and we are unique.
  • Rachel
    Hi there! I was just wondering what your wife had to say? Thank you.
  • Rachel
    Great! Thank you so much!
  • Hi Rachel,

    My wife has almost this exact same experience, so I'll talk with her about it and get back to you.
  • Rachel
    I am currently hosting a 20 yr old girl from Thailand. I am in America. I am curious to know the perspective of a Thai person about America. I want to respect her culture and help her feel more comfortable experienceing American culture. Do you have any suggestions?
  • @Peter Szinek: hi Peter, great stuff. Same to you @nap. @Peter: I'd love to hear what you find interesting in the U.S.. It would be great to hear that perspective.
  • I am from Europe, so I find quite a few things interesting in the US to begin with - but I'd like to share some nuggets from India, where I spent 2 months with my family working on my Rails startup (living among the natives, no walled off 'white colony'):

    - yeah, the kid sandwich was very common in India too - at any given time of the day, e.g. a 0.5yr old sandwich @ 11PM.
    - ridiculously cheap labor around you - e.g. you could easily get a guy to wash your windshield for a _few bucks_ a *month* every morning. Though not *that* cheap, but the same worked with drivers, cooks, 'domestic help' as they call it there, ...so privacy was almost non existent, if for no other reason, all these 'helpers' running around you all the time
    - personal distance is close to zero. In a 4-person elevator (4 persons in Europe - max 6 would try to cram in in an extreme situation) 10-15 persons were typical. In Europe you would wait a turn or two, here 5 more guys joined after you already thought no one would *physically* fit in.- Kids are fully potty trained as early as 1-2 years of age
    - serious pre-school starts at 2.5-3 (=learning to read, draw, paint, recite, sing, with a strict schedule)
    - driving... impossible to describe. virtually no traffic lights or signs, usually not even lanes or anything resembling to Europe. Lights, horns, hand waving are used for communication.
    - communicating with coders is... well.. hm... not easy ;-) I have been the CTO so had to do it on a regular basis - but the communication was almost impossible (not because I am smarter or they don't speak English as well as I do - they are just different)
    - flexible interpretation of one's word - if I say here 'I am going to meet you here and here at X:Y' then it's guaranteed that I'll make it, unless something serious kicks in in which case you'll be informed as soon as I get to know about the problem. Not in India - being late 1-2 hours, delivering something totally different, agreeing on going to left and immediately going to right after that etc. are frequent

    There is much more, but I don't want to write a longer comment than your article ;-)
  • nap
    I spent a few weeks in China in 2007, and one of the things I remember most fondly was (as you note) the focus on sharing food and 'ordering for the table'. Eating is much more of a social event, and that's a great thing, especially when you're at the table with others that you don't know well. That often changes quickly.
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